Monday, August 04, 2008

A Wedding in the Family

August 2, 2008

Dear Jen and Tony,

Today is the day you have chosen to show that the two of you as individuals have also become one couple. You have decided to walk through the rest of your lives together. Living is both beautiful and difficult. It helps to have a hand to hold when you rejoice and when you need comfort. The poet Kahlil Gibran had these words to say about marriage.

"You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. "

Being together does not mean every moment. Don’t forget to take time to nourish the individual that you are so that when you are called upon to give more than you think you can, you will discover a seemingly miraculous reserve of love and compassion.

"Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music."

In one sense, love is already a bond. It is the thread that runs through all our lives, connecting us one to the other. Love is such an inclusive concept—among its attributes are patience and understanding, kindness and courage, affection and truth. But a false idea of love can blind us; we can mistake possession and need and jealousy for love. Remember to recognize your strengths and share them readily but don’t sublimate them.

"Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."

Remember to join hands and face the future together, both of you looking not at each other but outward along the same path. Help each other over the rocky places and at the end of each day, celebrate the joy you find in each other’s lives and in your own.



Barbara said...

Beautiful words and beautiful event. You look perfectly attired for a wedding on the beach!

meggie said...

Beautiful Pauline.
Long may they be happy together.

Java said...

How beautiful is that!! :-)
Congratulations to all, the summer beach wedding pics are so great!

Pauline said...

barbara - it was such a lovely day!

thank you meggie - i will pass that on :)

hey AD - where WERE you? lol - it was a great party!

TheElementary said...

This was so heartfelt- a lovely tribute indeed. Life is certainly rocky but with good family and such love to guide them no doubt the way will be much easier.

Ruth D~ said...

Pauline, Your words are priceless, magical, full of motherlove and wisdom. This is a special gift to your children.

Java said...

he he he. Next time!

Pauline said...

elementary, love is surely a strong glue!

thank you ruth. I do love that girl and now, with two of my four married, my son/daughter count has risen to six. Marriage is a delightful way to acquire more family members!

Eleni said...

Dear Pauline,
Congrats 2 the newlyweds! A beach wedding, is there anything better? smile. Thanks 4 adding me 2 ur list. I would like 2 do the same but can't find ur address.

Pauline said...

eleni - thanks. here is my blog address. Just paste it in your template :)