Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Suddenly You're Gone

A friend and colleague has died suddenly in a car crash. It is still hard for the living to breathe...



In the time it takes
to blink
to slam your foot on the brake pedal
to register the sound of splintering glass
the grind of metal

in the time it takes
to breathe
one last breath - in, out -
to wish it hadn't happened
to wonder what comes next

in the time it takes to sigh
everything changes

18 comments:

Brian Miller said...

sorry for your loss...it is hard esp when it is so sudden...all it takes is one little thing...ugh

Bonnie said...

We all hang by a fragile thread. May this tragedy bring all who grieve to an acute understanding of the value of every breath ... as your beautiful poem suggests. Condolences.

June said...

My sympathy to you and all those who grieve your friend. Your poem captures the second-by-second grace by which we each continue to live.

steven said...

pauline - in the fullness of a moment so much ends and so much begins. i'm so sorry for the suffering that accrues to this death. steven

Tabor said...

My virtual arms around your shoulders and my thoughts are with you.

Robyn said...

I understand the pain of loss and I am very sorry to read of yours.

Take care
Robyn

Judith said...

The sorrow has made a beautiful poem.
Not wasted, then.

Barbara said...

I wonder how that last breath feels, whether it seems to last forever or be gone in a split second? I hope I never find out, at least not in the way your friend did.

Brian Hayes said...

heart strings, I call them: those blinks that brought us here, those blinks that take us.... it's been rough lately... wish you well.

Hilary said...

Pauline, I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you.

Teri said...

I'm sorry for your loss. We lost someone yesterday (the daughter of a friend) in a motorcycle accident so your poem is so profound and poignant at this time. Thank you so much for sharing. It somehow made it easier, reading this.

Pauline said...

Brian - we are such a fragile yet strong species - always the dichotomy

Thank you Bonnie - the suddenness makes it harder to comprehend somehow

June - the grace by which we live - a lovely way to put it, thanks

Steven - the children lost a teacher, the staff a colleague and it's hard to see everyone so suddenly bereft

Tabor, thank you thank you

Thanks, Robyn - we all suffer it and each time it's new and awful

Judith - writing the words down helps...

Barbara - I keep trying to breathe for him, even though it's too late...

Ah Brian H - I like the thought of heart strings - thanks

Hilary - thank you - losing two friends suddenly as I have in the past few weeks is so incomprehensible.

Teri - sometimes the words just pour out. I was uncertain as to whether I should make them public but if they helped you, then I'm glad I did. Thank you for telling me.

Marion said...

I'm so sorry, Pauline. Death and grief are so much worse when there is no time to say goodbye.I'm glad you wrote about it...writing always helps. Take care...xo

Out on the prairie said...

Sometimes we take safety for granted. sorry to hearof your lose.

Berowne said...

Powerful, moving...

Pauline said...

marion - I had just walked down the hall with him the day before and he was telling me how his life was finally falling into place...

OOTP - we do take lots of things for granted - our continuation here being one of them.

Thank you for your kind words, Berowne

Kerry said...

Here you are, left to ponder the unfathomable qualities of an untimely death, and you have created a beautiful poem. I am so sorry.

herhimnbryn said...

P. xo.xo.